Dragon Age General Discussion

If Alistair/M!Warden is invalidated because insert heteronormativity here I guess Isabela is my favorite thus making Iron Bull my second favorite romance.

Stop kink shaming me!

I don't think I'd ever be able to put the DA romances in any order, because I've loved them all for different reasons.

Though Izzy is my favorite F/F, so I guess that's an easy one to list. Never got into Leliana or Josie like that and since Morrigan isn't an option.../cry.

Also I am very sad that there is still no DA news and people keep saying we'll be waiting until 2021 or later because of reasons and that's just too damn far away. Frackk you, Anthem.

i.... i laughed harder than i should have, i'm going to hell

They're bi, so bi, the bi-est.

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It would be nice if Thedas walked the walk a little more in terms of presenting a more matriarchal society, but just because the heads of some of the thedosian churches are female does not mean sexism would vanish. We see plenty of kings, division of labor, etc. our world still did wrong by women even as having female gods, female priestesses, and female queens.

I too Would like thedas tohave been designed a little more different from our world, as that is interesting and why the hell not design a revolutionarily different socio political system in a fictional world, and especially since there are now countless fantasy/science fiction works that have done just that. But unfortunately in the post “grim dark” age it’s easier to just copy the fucked up things in our world instead of imagining fucked up things in a different world.

Really, my preference is for the characters to be about the same age. Like I generally have my PCs end up being roughly late twenties, early thirties (we'll see how this changes as I age out of my own early thirties), so I generally aim for about the same age between the characters. It's easier to view the Warden as being younger, for example, due to a few origins playing as them being in their early twenties (or equivalent, if lifespans are different between humans, elves, and dwarves), which makes Alistair a contemporary, while Hawke is pretty explicitly in their mid-twenties at the start of DA2, based on Carver and Bethany's age. The Inquisitor ends up being open to interpretation - most of the time I view my Inquisitors as being in the above mentioned range, but I have one who skewed a bit younger, since I based him off of an actual person who was around twenty-four at the time.

So, yeah, above all, I think I prefer my LIs in general to be about contemporary to the PC. I think that also has to do with the element of age and power dynamics that have frequently made BioWare romances uncomfortable - there are a lot of mentor/mentee romances in the BioWare canon, and they always play out with this element of a power imbalance, where the PC ends up having a lot more power and/or experience than the (pretty much exclusively female) love interest. I want a relationship where they can approach one another as equals, and there's a lot more room for that to be turned toxic if something is out of balance, be it age or just position. And with position, usually that's entirely offset by the PC being the capital-H Hero of the story.